How to Pop the Question?

What a great question this is. I don’t think that there really is just one way to actually pop the question. Of course there is the traditional get down on one knee and ask her, but then what about the ring in the champagne glass or ring in the cake method. To completely understand the insanity this question causes, one must have gone through it or is currently going through it, as I am. I spend nights and days thinking of the perfect proposal wondering if it’s good enough or how badly is this going to embarrass me. Then Im told that it doesn’t matter how embarrassed you get because you are asking someone you want to spend the rest of your life with a very important question. Umm excuse me but I still want to keep some self pride here!

 

So how and when and why and where? All I can say is do what’s in your heart and listen to her. Spend a good two months listening to her every word and find out what she really really likes. Let’s face it! We guys are terrible listeners so these two months are going to be excruciatingly hard to perform. For centuries we have been performing these extravagant performances and procedures to ask women for their hand. The question I have is, do we really need to? If you think about it, most women like very simple and tasteful things. Of course there are others that want nothing but the best and the most expensive and outrageous proposal. When  you find a great woman, however, you will notice that it is the simplest things that make her happy and that’s what it is all about, making her happy.

 

Going back to the main question, there is no real rhyme or reason to the proper proposal. Maybe you would like to do it sky diving over the Grand Canyon, or even underwater while scuba diving. The point is, you propose in the way you know your sweetie will love it and remember for the rest of her life. The best part of this all, for the guys if you do something that sweet it will stick with you forever as well as making it so easy to remember. In the long run that will save you some headaches and bruises.

 

The one knee proposal is so universal and traditional that it is used always and every time! Can someone please explain to me why? It could be that the guys are getting ready to relinquish their power by kneeling down and accepting their fate. It is the guy’s way of gesturing that he no longer has the power and he surrenders his will and soul to the woman. That could be it or it could be that the woman has always been in control and the men are just now realizing that and thus we get down on one knee from over exhaustion from the past battle. Then they realize that no battles ever fought will be won again. Yes, yes that must be it.

 

When you are finally ready to kneel down and lovingly ask her that question in a way that makes butterflies tickle her stomach, you will know how to do it. Truly, you are not ready for that sort of commitment if you for the life of you cannot think of one act of kindness that she would love. So many people ask, how do you know and many answer, you just do. It is that feeling of completeness and satisfaction that life is going to be amazing with that one girl. It is the feeling that you are willing to leap skyscrapers for her and fly without a parachute to try and save her. No doubt you will do stupid things throughout the rest of your lives but just knowing that you can get through anything if you just stick together gives you that sigh of relief, that is the feeling.

 

That is the best way I can describe the feeling. It is when you feel that feeling, that you are ready for the rest of your life in the real world and with her. Some might call it love some will call it completeness. It makes no difference what you want to call it. Just feel and let the feelings rush over you like nothing you have ever felt before. It wil hit you like a ton of bricks letting you know to come back to reality and do what is right. That’s when the how is answered.

 

 

Tip of the Day: Buy your sweetie flowers and see their reaction.